My name is Tiecha, I am a mother of 3 daughters; 5, 3, and 4mo. I have been married for almost 7 years. That’s the basics.
When I was in high school, I weighed 125lbs. I played sports, I wore bikinis, I was crowned as a beauty queen. If you saw me today you would never know the above was my past. Since then, I have gotten married to an amazing man, had 3 beautiful daughters, and lost my 125lb-self inside of a 95lb real-life fat suit. This just hit me yesterday… I am 95 POUNDS heavier than I was when I graduated high school 8 and half years ago, that is almost 100 POUNDS.
GROSSSSSS!!!!
There is not ONE excuse that is even remotely good enough for this to have happened. 3 kids DOES NOT = 95lbs. It is embarrassing to admit this. It breaks my heart that I could let myself go THIS much. I see obese people and I think, “How could you live that way?” Uh… HELLO? How can YOU… I?? It is crushing to my self-esteem, and my confidence. There are days that I am embarrassed to go anywhere because I am SO HUGE! My clothes don’t fit right, and I still look pregnant in most of them. I should never feel so ashamed of myself that I don’t want to be around other people. That is CRAZY TALK!! But it is my reality, and I need to change it. I know I am still an athlete, who apparently checked out quite a few years ago. My weight has fluctuated dramatically since having kids. My lowest since my first daughter is 180lbs (still not acceptable) my highest 220 (minus being pregnant. That was 228). I have always used the excuse of having babies for my size. That is unacceptable. My husband and I do plan to expand our family by one more in the next 2 years, and normally my thought would be," Just wait until you're done having kids, THEN worry about getting skinny again." I don't want that mentality anymore. I want to get skinny NOW!
My goal? 150.
So as you can tell I have my work cut out for me. I am signing up for a 5K for the end of February. I started the South Beach Diet today, and got my fat butt back to the gym. I have done the SB in the past (after each child) and lost between 20-40lbs; I hope to do the same again.
My intentions with this blog are to keep a journal of my thoughts, feelings, failures and accomplishments. I hope to motivate myself through your comments, and I hope to inspire other moms to get up and peel off their real-life fat suits. Because that’s all they are, they are just a suit that we can remove when we are ready to make it happen . I know I’m more than ready.
Disclamimer: If you don’t have anything nice to say then just keep it to yourself. It is not easy to come out and admit your weight, and let yourself be vulnerable to others. Please feel free to leave words of encouragement, your experiences, and your accomplishments.
You have friends and family behind you every step of the way. You are my inspiration on many levels beautiful, smart, a fantastic mother, and the absolute best sister anyone could ever have! I know you can do it!!
ReplyDeleteLove you Tiecha! Going through the same thing right now and I've only had one baby! I've always kept up working out but finally realized I needed to shape up how I eat. Thanks for putting it all out there, maybe we can help to motivate each other. Good luck. We should meet up in February and hopefully we have both made some progress.
ReplyDeleteGood for you girl! It's very hard to lose weight while juggling so many other things. Setting healthy goals and a healthy lifestyle will instill a positive body image in your daughters too. Good luck! You can do it!
ReplyDeleteTiecha, you are so awesome for doing this blog and posting it on Facebook. I've wanted to do it so many times but haven't had the courage to do it, so I applaud you. I am basically the male equivalent to this same story. I was athletic and popular in high school but now I am embarrassed to see anyone from high school because of the weight I've gained. I also feel like I am an athlete and I miss doing some of the things I used to do all the time like going hiking and playing sports like ultimate frisbee. I am ready to make a change as well, so this blog is inspirational to me. I'll keep you updated on my progress as you update your blog. Good job and good luck, we can do it!
ReplyDeleteCousin!You have always been a very motivated person and accomplished anything you put your mind too. YOU GOT THIS!! I Love you !
ReplyDeleteTiecha I am right there with you!! I feel the same exact way, but I just wasn't that skinny in high school, but I weigh so much more now! I feel that is why I am so antisocial, because I don't want people seeing how I have let myself go. My hubby has friends coming in town this weekend and we are supposed to go out on the strip with them. My first thought was that I didn't want to go bc I don't look good in anything I own, and I don't want to embarrass my husband! And when I think like that I get more mad at myself bc I've never been one to care what others thought of me, and I have always had so much confidence even if I wasn't the prettiest, or skinniest. You have helped motivate myself as well, thank you for being so open and putting it out there. Love you!!
ReplyDeleteYOU CAN DO IT!! Excited for you! I've been doing tons of research on being healthy (& skinny!) let me know if you want any advice! P90x will kick your butt ;)
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I'm right there with you. I was never that thin, so I think I've just been justifying it. I have an appointment with a nutritionist next week. Thank you for being so brave and inspiring! I plan on losing 75-85 lbs. sounds like we can all support each other! Beach mamas by 2013 :)
ReplyDeleteGood for you tiecha! You have so many friends.and family around you to help.and support you. I know it will be hard but will.be rewarding in the end. One thing to remember is portion control. It won't.matter how hard you work out if you don't control your portions. I'm excited to.read your blog and see your progress. You can do this, no problem. :).
ReplyDeleteI have 112lbs to lose, and it is time for the fat suit to come off for good! Thank you for putting this out in public, it definately makes me feel better that I am not the only person who struggles with the all the emotional struggles that weight gain brings! I know you can do it! We can do it!!!!
ReplyDeletei'm so glad you are doing this and blogging about it! I am working on it, too. i know you already do crossfit, so i don't have to recommend it to you. something that REALLY keeps me on track is staying off of gluten, in general. i couldn't eat it while nursing Charlie (or dairy or soy) and that baby weight came off pretty fast because eating junk or processed food was just NOT an option, or i would be hurting my baby. since i quit nursing, i kind of went out of control binging on all the things i was missing, and started gaining it back. i decided 1 week ago to go off of gluten again so snacking on junk and late night dessert wouldn't be an option (and for other more serious health reasons, too) and i've already lost 5 pounds. Crazy! But even if you don't go gluten free, i would recommend cutting it out, with the exception of rare tiny amounts that might be present in something like soy sauce (although you can get GF soy sauce, too) i promise it will help you make better decisions and resist temptations! you probably are already off of it for SB, anyway. wow that got long! so i know the same thing doesn't work for everyone, but that's what i am doing RIGHT now and it's really helping me! good luck, and please update and share. i would love to be a part of this and keep each other motivated and accountable!
ReplyDeleteWay to go Tiecha! I hope you find blogging to be therapeutic too! I look forward to reading about your progress! :)
ReplyDeletethanks for doing this Tiecha!! It is motivating to me! my goal is to be at 145lbs. feels like a long way to go but we can do this! just take it one day at a time.
ReplyDeleteTiesha, I think it's great that you are getting back into shape and letting others take the journey with you. It's not an easy one and it will test your inner strength at times. Never give up! Know that you are such a beautiful person and we will all be here to help you reach your goal.
ReplyDeleteTiecha, Good for you, love your vulnerability to post this, weight is a huge thing for many people. I have battled my weight my whole life including high school. Never have been the thin girl, but after my fourth baby 3 years ago, I hit my biggest weight and size 18. Hated myself, after a year of Insanity workout and doing Atkins, I lost 35 pounds and got down to a size 10, I am sick of myself for putting 15lbs back on and have now motivated myself to do it again...on the Atkins road again. I wish you the best and will check on your post now and then to see your progress. Good luck!!!!Remember nothing tastes as good as thin feels...
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